February 8, 2018 at 9:34 am #3225
I am not sure if anyone can help. I met a guy who has Aspergers back in August, everything was going perfect. I fact he started the subject of marriage and children and designing me into his life. Come October 2017 his business became very busy and I started to see less of him and hear less. He’s always busy and doesn’t have time for a coffee. He’s on a mission to change the world and in early November he told me he doest want to be in a relationship. I have bee in a bad state since and saw him once after that early December and since then I haven’t seen him and its always me initiating text. I really like him, but it seems the more I try the more distant he becomes, so I am getting paranoid he is lying or cheating. Can anyone help as to how I can build the relationship back to his it was? He says he loves and cares for me and wants me to be happy but doesn’t want a relationship and that he is very focused and driven and has a mission. Do I wait or do I walk away ?
I have been low and depressed and confused and I guess finding it hard to accept how someone can change so drastically and whether he is being honest or not ?
thank you for any feedbackFebruary 12, 2018 at 6:32 pm #3229
Dr. Kenneth RobersonKeymaster
Hi Summertime. As I mentioned in my earlier email to you, it appears to me that he doesn’t want to pursue his relationship with you and it would be wise to hear his message. You ask how to build the relationship back up but I wonder if it’s in your best interest to do so. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you? I know it’s hard to accept how someone can change so drastically but the more important question is why continue wanting someone who has made it clear he doesn’t want to be with you?
You may never know why he’s choosing to move in another direction. What is important right now, I believe, is to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move forward with you life, believing that in time you will find the person that’s right for you.
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